I say; you said...What are we speaking?

 

We have seen it, we've heard it...the use of self-constructed words to a point that even the people talking to each other have lost their original ideas. In each  culture, town, city, the people have a common "tongue" that they share that in a way excludes those that are not from that area. We all have heard my coloured brothers screamin," hey my bru, I chuned you that I will naai that stekkie" or the young Indian college boys saying "why you  dala that ek'se" and the ordinary adult stands there trying to figure out "what the heck". Language has become fluorescent as the times has nurtured a youth that type shorter sentences and live for fast foods. Short messages are plagues with "l.o.l" ( meaning laugh out loud") which itself has been adapted to "L.L.M" meaning laugh like Mawande. Even the marginalised groups like prisoners have their own language the resonate to their lifestyle and personality. Well the LGBTI community has their own language...Gay lingo. 

 

Like any other language, gay lingo is set across cultural diversity. In Zulu, the language is called isingqumo. You are more likely to hear this type of language amongst homosexuals in KwaZulu Natal. You will hear terms like iqenge, isigeqo, ukujujuma and a whole lot more. Funny enough it is rare for a gay guy or lesbian to tell you that someone taught them the lingo, it seems like it grows on individuals who are part of a clique that normally communicate using this language. Like any other evolving language. Homosexuals have modernized their language. What was iqenge is now iQ. I have heard that there' s an English version of this gay language. The few terms I have heard were fish, which means girl. A bag or number which means a boyfriend or partner. Aida is AIDS, mavis is your girly gay boys.

 

There's a term for every word within these languages. I am frankly opened to learn more of these languages in order to communicate with every gay, lesbian, transgendered, bisexuals and intersex. To my surprise, "straight people have accustomed to this language. Others use it to put someone down and some use it to get cosy with our esteemed homosexual community.

 

If you know a word that is a gay slang/ lingo. Fell free to comment on the blog and tell us more. If anyone knows how these languages came about, share it with me. I would love to know so we can educate more LGBTI's on these language, to create a sense of unity and community.

 

Psiidu XX

 

Gay son: Lesbian daughter

Source(twitter):Psiidu @gaylesbiankzn

Homosexual, heterosexual or asexual. You are a child conceived and raised by loving parents. They sacrifice so much to make sure we have a brighter and better future. They grin and bear with our ever evolving attitudes as we go through adolescence. Then boom, we drop the bomb..."Mum I'm GAY"..."Dad I like girls" by a daughter. What are the initial responses we get from our parents? What responses do we expect after breaking such news to our mothers and fathers.

Well I never had to tell my mum...she caught me in the act. Don't do that! I'm not the only guy who got caught in the act to come out. So me and my boy were in my room, temperatures rising as we thought whoa this will be the best making out ever. Until the door opened... actually we heard the rustling sound of plastics, but that was too late. Mum had stood there, watching two boys kissing like they were ready to swallow each other. We jumped and tried to compose ourselves and she kept quiet. My boy and I quietly left the house. On my way back all that was going through my head was she knows I'm gay, how could she not know, I'm her only son. Surely something must've resembled my sexuality.
When I got home, I promise it was almost as if she had been rehearsing whilst I was away. She was speaking 50words per second. She shouted like that, telling me what a disappointment I am. Where have I seen two men doing the nasty? Who in my family does that? Funny enough I was not phased by most of what she said, until she said something about packing my bags and leaving the house... Which I didn't do ofcourse. However she hit me that night with a plastic jar on my forehead, I have a scar to prove that! Two weeks later, she bought cake and we started speaking normally again.

That's just my story. What I'm trying to say is, I actually expected my mum to say "oh ja, I've always known you'd be GAY or QUEER" but she didn't. I remember while she was shouting at me, she mentioned "no one in my family was homosexual". Today I have 4 homosexual relatives, 2 gays + me and 2 lesbians. Now the dilemma is , the lesbians are better accepted by family. Its been 8years since I came out but I still can't say "Im with my boyfriend mah. My lesbian cousin brings her girlfriends home and mum sits there like Im the one who brought a MAKOTI home. Why is our parents and the society at large is more tolerant towards LESBIANS than GAYS?

Lesbians out there, share how you view this dilemma. Tell us how you came out and how has your society received you as a proud and out lesbian. Gay guys do the same please. Is it just me or this is another case of sexism???

Next time we will be paying tribute to our LGBTI members who passed on because of their sexuality. Hate crimes  and this ridiculous idea of corrective rape....I mean really? Corrective rape guys?

I love you guys XX